I’ve spent much of my time as a parent learning when to say no. I am horrible about thinking I can accomplish everything and tend to say yes to whatever work/volunteer/kid thing that is thrown my way. Need someone to help you with a book drive? Sure. Need someone to be the Secretary of the PTA? Sign me up. Need a parent to help out with something for Cub Scouts? I’m your girl. Or at least that’s how it used to be. But, over the last year, I’ve learned to set limits. I’ve learned to evaluate what I have going on and what is being asked of me and decide what I’m capable of. I’ve also gotten better about assigning values to things. If it’s something dear to my heart or important to my kids, I’ll figure out a way, but if it’s not, I’m going to say no.
But lately, I’ve been forcing myself to say yes more. Not to more time commitments, but to new experiences. I’ve been stepping outside my comfort zone. And let me tell you, it has not been easy. I’ve gone to new yoga classes. I’ve signed up (through living social) for a core barre class. I bid on (and won) some spinning classes at Revolve. But it’s not just in the exercise arena that I need to step out of my comfort zone.
So, here are some “yeses” I have coming up that have my stomach tied in knots:
- Cub Scout camp – 7 days with no showers, no internet, and a plethora of 4th grade boys
- Touring NYC with the kids BY MYSELF – Beer Geek has a work trip there, so the boys and I are going to go up with him. I plan to take them to the Statue of Liberty and some other NYC stuff and then take the train back with them BY MYSELF. I’m practically hyperventilating just thinking about it.
- My boss wants me to present about using social media at a conference. Yeah, that scares me.
Ok, I admit I’m not doing things like jumping out of a plane, but I’m a firm believer that the more frequently you step outside of your comfort zone and survive, the more new things you’ll be willing to try.
Do you step out of your comfort zone often? Got any tips for me about visiting New York City with kids? Or are you the queen of using social media? Quite frankly, I can use all the help I can get!