Marcia over at the Healthy Slice is advocating making one small change each week to better your life. I’ve been meaning to join in for a while, but finally decided this is the week.
My change for this week (and part of last week) is to stop letting exaggerated worries stress me out. I have a bad habit of freaking out before I know the exact extent of a problem. I am highly anxious. I finally reached the point where I either need to learn to cope or go see someone about either therapy or drugs to cope. I haven’t ruled out getting help, but I’m trying to see what I can manage to do on my own.
The first thing I had to realize was that the lead weight feeling in my gut was both a feeling of my own making and that I didn’t have to let it be there. Just realizing that I don’t have to let the everyday stresses get to me was a step in the right direction. (Seems simplistic, I know.)
Next, I needed to come up with a coping plan. Here’s how I’m handling life’s little stresses:
- Decide if there is anything I can do to improve the outcome or make it go away. If there is, do it. And move on. If not, accept the situation.
- Gonna have to live with it for a bit? Put it in perspective, don’t ignore it. If the worst option happens, is it the end of the world? (And how likely is the worst option anyway?)
- Pull out the coping mechanisms: run, lift weights, do something fun with Beer Geek and/or the kids, sit and just breathe…
- Find something good to fill your time and thoughts. Sometimes trash novels are just the thing.
How’s it working? I’m not anxiety free, but I’m sleeping, I’m not stress eating, that weight in the pit of my stomach is much less frequent.
Are my problems gone? No and I’m sure the particular set I’m dealing with will be replaced by new ones in the future. But the two mantras of “This too shall pass” and “It’s only money” are helping me get through. ;o)
What are your coping mechanisms? How do you handle the inevitable stresses that come with owning a home, having kids, owning cars, etc.? I’d love to add some tools to my tool box.
And some gratuitous pictures from my weekend: